What should kids learn in school? The traditional answer has always focused on intelligence and cognitive development as measured by IQ tests and standardized test scores. Over time an overwhelming focus on these cognitive skills has come to dominate our education system.
However, recently there has been a growing awareness regarding the importance of non-cognitive/social skills such as self control, resilience, impulse control, and delayed gratification. Particularly at an early age, when the development of a child’s character and personality is even more important than their cognitive development.
Developing a Strong Foundation in Non-Cognitive Skills is Crucial and Dictates the Success or Struggles in Your Child's Academic and Social Life
While learning how to read and write is without question important, learning how to think twice before making a bad decision, remaining calm and collected when things are not going your way, and sticking it out through a challenging situation are skills that will carry your child through all the difficult situations they will eventually encounter.
Despite documented evidence showing strong correlations between impulse control and later academic success, schools today neglect to teach and reinforce these critical skills.
Students with emotional, behavioral, and speech/language needs are often more vulnerable and fail to adequately develop these essential skills. When schools allow deficits in these skill areas to go unsupported, it is the child who ultimately suffers.
How to Help Your Child Gain the Skills They Need
Help your child develop the character traits and personality which will allow them to succeed in all areas of their lives. How?
Self-regulation, and resilience can and need to be taught through direct, explicit, and specialized instruction. You, as parents, possess the unique ability to provide an environment which supports the development of these non-cognitive skills. While frequent exposure to stressful situations during childhood inhibits a child's ability to develop these critical skills, providing a safe, nurturing, and warm environment has been shown to facilitate their development. (Read Team Esteem's Tips below or schedule a FREE 15-min consultation with Jamie for help).
Team Esteem's Tips:
Promote your child's confidence
Think twice about how YOU react
Help and comfort your child as necessary
Believe in your child's ability to sustain and work through difficult challenges
Often, schools recognize emotional/behavioral challenges exhibited by students, but do not have the resources and/or knowledge to effectively support those students. Schools and parents become frustrated, and blame is thrown around in an unproductive manner as all involved parties engage in a desperate search for the right answers.
Need more help? In working with Team Esteem, together we will identify the right answers and help your child:
Initiate and maintain positive relationships with peers.
Interact without drawing negative attention to themselves.
Actively contribute in a positive manner.
Interpret social situations, appropriately judging how to interact